How to Stop Breastfeeding: A Gentle Guide to Weaning
Providing breastmilk is a journey full of nurturing moments, growth, connection and at times stress. Every journey comes to an end, whether you’re stopping due to a natural progression, life circumstances, or your personal choice. Deciding to wean breastfeeding can be emotional, and knowing how to do it gently and comfortably can make all the difference for both you and your child.
In this guide, we’ll explore when and how to stop breastfeeding, with practical steps for weaning or stopping lactation, managing milk supply, supporting your child’s adjustment, and caring for your emotions along the way.
When to Stop Breastfeeding
Stopping breastfeeding is a personal decision that depends on your needs, your baby’s cues, and family dynamics. Here are a few factors to consider when deciding the right time:
Your Baby’s Age and Development
The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) and the World Health Organization (WHO) both recommend breastfeeding for at least the first year of life, but beyond that, the timing is unique to every family.
Mother’s and Baby’s Needs
Mothers often consider weaning based on their physical and emotional needs, work responsibilities, medication conditions, or a new pregnancy. Babies may give signs, too, like reduced interest in breastfeeding.
Different Weaning Timelines Around the World
In many cultures, weaning timing varies greatly. Some countries encourage extended breastfeeding into the toddler years, while others embrace weaning after the first year. No single weaning age is “best”—the timing is based on what feels right for you and your family.
Gradual Weaning Tips
The gradual weaning method tends to be gentler on both the child and mother’s body, helping prevent engorgement and giving you both time to adjust.
Start with Daytime Feeds
Reducing or replacing daytime feedings first, particularly in the middle of the day or afternoons, is often a gentle way to ease the transition. You might replace breastfeeding sessions with a bottle, snack, or a comfort activity like reading or cuddling. Observe your child’s reaction, and allow them to lead the pace. If pumping, start by reducing time on your pump. Wait for your body to readjust for 3-5 days and then reduce the timing again, or cut out the pump altogether and modify your pumping schedule. Based on our experience, it’s best to stop your first and last feeding or pumping sessions of the day last.
Move on to Night Weaning
Night weaning can be challenging, as breastfeeding is often a comfort tool for soothing a child back to sleep. Consider starting by shortening night feeds or increasing the time between feeds. Gradual night weaning might also include involving your partner or caregiver in nighttime soothing routines, especially if the baby associates feeding with you specifically.
Replace Feedings with Other Comforts
Keep the transition positive, replace feeding times with other forms of bonding like singing, taking walks, reading a story, or engaging in gentle play. Introducing a special blanket or stuffed animal can also provide comfort as a new soothing object. Avoid common breastfeeding areas such as your rocking chair and wearing lowcut tops.
Handling Milk Supply While Weaning
As you gradually stop breastfeeding, your milk supply will naturally decrease. Here’s how to manage it comfortably:
Allow for a Natural Decrease
Milk supply usually reduces with less frequent feeding or pumping. Allowing gradual changes helps avoid abrupt shifts in milk production, which can prevent engorgement or clogged ducts.
Techniques to Help Dry Up Supply Faster - If you need to speed up the reduction, you can try some natural techniques to dry up milk supply, such as:
Cabo Crème or Cabbage leaves: Applying Cabo Crème which is a concentrated lotion form of cabbage to your breasts can aid in reducing engorgement and supply. If you want to wean faster, the Extra Strength version is better. Alternatively, the age old tradition of using chilled cabbage leaves in your bra can also work.
Cold Compresses: After breastfeeding or pumping, cold compresses can soothe any tenderness and breast inflammation.
Herbal Remedies: Herbs like sage and peppermint have been traditionally used to help decrease milk production. When consumed at higher quantities in things like teas, or peppermint candies, these may work faster. Consult with your healthcare provider before adding any herbs, as their effects vary.
Preventing Engorgement and Discomfort
Avoid wearing tightly bound bras, applying warm compresses and extensive breast massages. If you experience prolonged breast pain or redness, reach out to a lactation consultant or healthcare provider.
Supporting Your Child Through the Transition
Weaning affects your baby, too. Here’s how to ease the adjustment:
Coping with Emotional Reactions
For children that are breastfeeding, some may experience frustration, clinginess, or sadness as they adjust to less nursing sessions. Acknowledge their feelings and reassure them with extra cuddles, words, and gestures of affection and consider reading weaning books with your child.
Finding New Routines and Comforts
Creating new routines can help your child adjust. Try incorporating special toys or bonding activities, and snack times if feeding solid foods, that gradually replace the closeness and comfort of breastfeeding.
Emotional Aspects of Stopping Breastfeeding
Weaning can bring up a range of emotions for mothers—pride, sadness, relief, or even guilt. Remember, these feelings are entirely normal.
Validating Mixed Feelings
It’s okay to feel a mix of happiness and sadness as you make this change. You’ve given your baby an invaluable start, and it’s natural to feel a sense of loss while also welcoming the new independence. Remember, your baby will continue to thrive!
Support for Mothers
Take care of yourself by connecting with loved ones, journaling, or practicing self-care. If you’re feeling down or anxious, it can be helpful to speak with a lactation consultant, therapist, or support group. You’re not alone in this experience, and others can offer insight and comfort.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) on Weaning
How long does it take to stop breastfeeding or lactating completely?
The weaning process varies widely. Gradual weaning might take weeks or months, while some mothers choose to wean more abruptly. Typically, gradual weaning is easier on both mom and baby.
How can I dry up my milk supply faster?
Using cold compresses, and trying herbal remedies like sage tea and peppermint candies can help. However, avoid binding breasts or tightly fitted bras, as this can lead to clogged ducts. In addition, you may speak with your healthcare provider about taking medications that can more significantly decrease supply.
Is it normal to feel sad after stopping breastfeeding or lactating?
Yes, hormonal shifts during weaning can impact your mood, and ending this bonding activity can be emotional. Practice self-care, and don’t hesitate to seek support if needed.
Will stopping breastfeeding affect my child’s bond with me?
No, the bond you share extends beyond breastfeeding. You can create new ways to connect, and your child’s need for your presence and love remains strong.
Conclusion: Embrace Your Unique Weaning Journey
The decision to stop breastfeeding is unique for every mother and child. Weaning, whether gradual or abrupt, is an important step that can bring you both to new milestones and ways of connecting. Remember, this transition is a time to trust your instincts, honor your needs, and cherish the journey. Seek support if you need it, and celebrate each step as you and your child grow together in new and beautiful ways.
Stopping breastfeeding is a significant shift that deserves a thoughtful approach. Whether you’re just beginning to think about weaning or are ready to start, take your time, prioritize your comfort and well-being, and honor your bond with your child.
(This article is for general informational purposes only. Consult with your healthcare provider or lactation consultant for personalized guidance on weaning.)